I'm glad you had a good Christmas. Each one is different and special in its own way. Mine was very quiet this year with only my husband and the pets at home. He had a harder time with all the quiet than I did. I've come to appreciate quiet. Didn't realize you are an author, too. Happy new year. May 2025 be kind to us all.
I love your stack. You write beautifully and thoughtfully about our lives as we age. Thank you. I spent the holiday with my kids in Canada. My second husband is home in Florida recovering from heart surgery
Thank you Sue so much. You write so beautiful. Every word is rich with you. I feel like I know you. I am in the interior of British Columbia in Kamloops. I lost my partner to cancer in 2023. I miss him for sure but i am more myself since he passed. Hope that makes sense. I am in the process of rebuilding a life without him. It takes courage and grit.
I wish I had a friend like you. Thank you for all that you write.
I had a hard day on my own. The first Christmas without my mum and it was full of triggers and grief. I also got some very thoughtful gifts, had calls with my dad and two friends, and got some lovely messages and more offers to chat than I could take up. I cried a lot, from sadness and gratitude. And I watched Thelma, which was fabulous. I do think that I’d like to go away next year and ignore that it’s Christmas altogether — be with family in Asia or just lie by a pool with a good book and a strong margarita. I need things to be completely different than the past as it’s the comparisons I found so painful.
My husband passed away in October of 2023. My mom and I decided to spend that Christmas in a cabin in the woods. It was a really bad idea and we ended up driving home Christmas day.
This year, I decided to spend the day at home. We stayed in our sweatpants all day and watched football. I won't say that there weren't times during the day that I didn't miss my husband terribly, and the way things used to be, but it was better than last year.
Knowing myself and having a plan helped. It sounds like that is how you got through the holiday too, and how you plan to maybe do Thanksgiving different next year.
You're so right. Not having a plan can lead to a day of feeling bad. Sounds like you and your mom had a pretty good time. I'm so sorry about your husband.
Your holiday sounds lovely! I know you came to see it that way, and no way am I condescending to you, but I feel that people sometimes need to hear that they have goodness around them, even if it's hard to see. I know I have to sometimes grudgingly accept that in my life.
I realize I can't see other's lives better than they do, but I also know that we tend to forget that there were very lonely moments in our pasts, when we think we're accurately looking backwards.
Please pardon the rambling. What i want to say is the magic in the world and our lives is always there, it may just look different than we preordain it should look.
Happy holidays from my very quiet corner to yours!
Hi Sue,
I'm glad you had a good Christmas. Each one is different and special in its own way. Mine was very quiet this year with only my husband and the pets at home. He had a harder time with all the quiet than I did. I've come to appreciate quiet. Didn't realize you are an author, too. Happy new year. May 2025 be kind to us all.
And yes I am a step grandmother (topic too big to discuss. And a Virgin River fan!!!
I love your stack. You write beautifully and thoughtfully about our lives as we age. Thank you. I spent the holiday with my kids in Canada. My second husband is home in Florida recovering from heart surgery
Thank you Sue so much. You write so beautiful. Every word is rich with you. I feel like I know you. I am in the interior of British Columbia in Kamloops. I lost my partner to cancer in 2023. I miss him for sure but i am more myself since he passed. Hope that makes sense. I am in the process of rebuilding a life without him. It takes courage and grit.
I wish I had a friend like you. Thank you for all that you write.
Thank you. I love what you say about being more yourself. It does make sense. I hope we can be long-distance friends.
Yes, that would be nice
I had a hard day on my own. The first Christmas without my mum and it was full of triggers and grief. I also got some very thoughtful gifts, had calls with my dad and two friends, and got some lovely messages and more offers to chat than I could take up. I cried a lot, from sadness and gratitude. And I watched Thelma, which was fabulous. I do think that I’d like to go away next year and ignore that it’s Christmas altogether — be with family in Asia or just lie by a pool with a good book and a strong margarita. I need things to be completely different than the past as it’s the comparisons I found so painful.
I'm sorry it was so hard. It can take years to figure it out. I'd like to be by a pool with a margarita and a good book, too.
My husband passed away in October of 2023. My mom and I decided to spend that Christmas in a cabin in the woods. It was a really bad idea and we ended up driving home Christmas day.
This year, I decided to spend the day at home. We stayed in our sweatpants all day and watched football. I won't say that there weren't times during the day that I didn't miss my husband terribly, and the way things used to be, but it was better than last year.
Knowing myself and having a plan helped. It sounds like that is how you got through the holiday too, and how you plan to maybe do Thanksgiving different next year.
You're so right. Not having a plan can lead to a day of feeling bad. Sounds like you and your mom had a pretty good time. I'm so sorry about your husband.
Your holiday sounds lovely! I know you came to see it that way, and no way am I condescending to you, but I feel that people sometimes need to hear that they have goodness around them, even if it's hard to see. I know I have to sometimes grudgingly accept that in my life.
I realize I can't see other's lives better than they do, but I also know that we tend to forget that there were very lonely moments in our pasts, when we think we're accurately looking backwards.
Please pardon the rambling. What i want to say is the magic in the world and our lives is always there, it may just look different than we preordain it should look.
Happy holidays from my very quiet corner to yours!
It was lovely. Thank you, heydave, and happy holidays to you. I'm so glad you're here.