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Susan Fusco-Fazio's avatar

I can relate to eating out alone, even though I’m still married my husband often doesn’t want to go out after Laura passed away. It felt quite lonely to go out to breakfast by myself, but I got used to it because a lot of people seem to go out to breakfast along so lunch and breakfast are OK. I don’t think I ever going out to dinner alone but actually I did when I was training to be a yoga teacher and after work I had to go to Thai restaurant to get some to eat, which was mainly a takeout place, so it didn’t feel awkward, I think the main point of this is that you do feel somewhat.

conspicuous.

sometimes you can feel alone when you’re with people like in a work space lunchroom when no one else’s connecting with you and they’re just talking to each other. That’s all that can be a yucky feeling and often I chose to just work at my computer most of the time the teachers were sharing, their weddings and milestone events and I felt sad or left out. I got used to eating alone and I don’t have a problem with it anymore. It seems you have gotten used to it some perks. The people watching is fun and there’s always someone that wants to have a chat with you even if it’s just a waitress. There’s whole world out there people who want to connect and share a few kind words with one another that’s all you really need. I think since Covid and after all that isolation eating a lot alone does not feel lonely anymore. It was when people were stuck home alone that felt most lonely.

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Marta Montoro's avatar

I eat out on my own a decent bit as (I’m not always motivated to cook for 1!) and have generally had good experiences - though when solo I do try to go during off-peak hours, go informal most of the time, am not a picky eater, and tip well. At least in the DC area, I’ve not seen the concept of singles sitting together - not sure how I feel about that! But I’m glad to help new/small new ventures get off the ground post-pandemic, and enjoy eating what I’m unlikely to make at home.

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